When I pick up my older son from preschool, I always bring his little brother with me. Sometimes I let the little one check out the toys and books in the play area.
The other day, my toddler was carrying around a book and occasionally putting the corner to his mouth. I was only taking a moment to jot down a note for the teacher, so I knew he wouldn’t get far. But a concerned mom walked over to him, took the book from him, and said, “I don’t think you really want that in your mouth.”
I’m not really sure what she meant – was she genuinely concerned that my son was getting into something that might be dirty? Or was she worried he might pass his germs on to other kids there?
Either way, I hadn’t been that concerned. I just am not that worried about everyday germs. I’d go crazy trying to keep everything from my toddler’s mouth.
My older son knows to cover his mouth with his arm when he has to sneeze or cough. He automatically washes his hands after going to the bathroom. Those are the bare minimums for keeping your germs to yourself, and at four years old, he does pretty well.
I also cancel playdates if he’s sniffly or coughing, even if he is in good spirits with no sign of fever. But beyond this, we don’t go out of our way to do much to keep germs at bay.
I’ve also found it impossible to keep the brothers’ germs separated.
Little brother just wants to test out everything with his mouth, including big brother’s straw, snack leftovers, and even his baseball bat. And with two kids, there’s just no way I could keep everything out of his reach.
Worst of all, this has been big brother’s first year in preschool, so he has caught everything. Strangely enough, the little brother has rarely come down with even a stuffy nose.
We were pretty picky around the house when they were newborns, though.
We were especially protective when they were first born, as they were premature and the doctor warned us about the potential dangers of catching a cold with their immature immune systems. But when they’re that small, it’s so much easier to shield them from everything.
How about you? What lengths do you go to keep germs at bay around your kids?
He may be oblivious to it, but there’s a lot of pressure to perform.
At his four-month checkup, the pediatrician told me I was probably focusing too much on my older son, and that’s why my baby wasn’t rolling over yet. (Ouch!) Now with the big half-year milestone in view, he’s supposed to be sitting up, passing things from one hand to the other, and probably more things I don’t think he can do yet.
With the pressure on, I’ve been trying to help him get the hang of supporting himself when he is propped up on the floor. At first he just folded over forwards. Now he balances upright for a couple seconds before toppling sideways.
My baby boy was six weeks premature, yet he is subject to all the same expectations as the bigger babies who got an extra month and a half over him in the womb. If they would use his adjusted age, he’d be four and a half months. To be honest, he’s probably somewhere in between developmentally.
Sometimes I hate opening those BabyCenter.com email updates that talk about all the wonderful things may baby is supposed to be doing at this point in time. My first son, who was four weeks early, NEVER liked stacking things, and I don’t remember him ever staring at his hands. I kept waiting for him to do those things. (No matter, it’s a useful service. And there’s always a little disclaimer at the end that reminds you that every baby develops differently.)
But still, it plants the seed: Is something wrong with my baby?
In truth, babies do develop differently. Though he’s not sitting on his own yet, and rolling over is still pretty rare, he loves standing up (holding my hands of course). And he’s nearly potty trained. Don’t those things count?
The problem is that babies everywhere go through a progression of skills they acquire before they can go onto the next thing. That’s why rolling, then sitting, then crawling and finally walking are so important. You generally don’t get one before the other.
Still, I’m in no hurry. It seems the past 6 months have flown by, and I’ll be just fine if my little boy isn’t walking when he turns one. As long as things are progressing, I figure we’re fine.
I’m just hoping the pediatrician agrees with me tomorrow, as we struggle to show off our best almost-sitting-up performance.
There’s a mindset especially when it comes to babies that bigger is better. (Well, not past 10 lbs, for example, but in general, I’d say.)
When I was told at 32 weeks gestation that my baby was already 5 lbs, I was delighted. That’s because we knew he might be born prematurely, and if he was already that big, then he would have to be fine, right?
He was born two weeks later, at 34 weeks, and it turns out the ultrasound was a little off. He was actually 4 lbs 15 oz at birth. Still, not bad, I thought.
The neonatal specialist who visited with us in the hospital tried to prepare us for potential problems with the early birth. According to him, it didn’t really matter how big or small our baby was. The single most important indicator of how well he would do would be gestational age. (He also said preemie girls typically tend to fare better.)
Babies certainly have been getting bigger for the last 30 years. A study in Australia looked at what might be making babies bigger these days. They found contributing factors to be fewer moms smoking, more giving birth later in life, and an increase in gestational diabetes as many moms themselves are bigger these days.
Here’s some data from the study in Australia:
Between 1990 and 2005, according to the study, the percentage of full-term male infants weighing greater than 4000 g (8 lbs 13 oz) increased from 14.3 to 15.8% (a 10.5% increase), and the percentage with birthweight over 4500 g (9 lbs 14 oz) increased from 2.2 to 2.4% (a 9% increase); male infants born LGA (large for gestational age) increased from 9.2% to 10.8% (a 17.9% increase). The percentage of female infants with birthweight over 4000 g increased from 8.3 to 9.5% (a 15.2% increase), and the percentage with birthweight greater than 4500 g increased from 1 to 1.2% (a 20% increase); female infants born LGA increased from 9.1 to 11% (a 21% increase).
I was 6 lbs 2 oz when I was born, at full term. At four weeks early, my first son was 7 lbs 1 oz. The second guy might have been around that, if he’d stayed in longer.
I guess we’re an example of the trend toward bigger babies. How about you?
Now that most babies are placed on their backs to sleep, you see flat head syndrome in infants who prefer to keep their heads in a certain position when they’re sleeping and laying in car seats, strollers, bouncers, swings, etc. Preemies are also more prone to flat head syndrome.
While a flat spot on the head has been thought to be mostly cosmetic (imagine if your little guy has to shave his head down the road! Yikes!), there may be situations where it’s more serious. Some people wonder if the baby will be at risk for eye, ear, and jaw problems down the road. And some research is starting to show potential learning problems for kids with flat head syndrome.
How flat head syndrome develops
Due to the pressure on the favored spot during sleep time, a baby’s still-forming skull will actually flatten and lose its natural rounded shape. This may result in one spot on the side of the head that is flattened, or the entire back flattening out. Either way, the flat spot is often accompanied by a bulge in another spot to accommodate, resulting in a misshapen head.
From the beginning, we alternated positions in the crib for our first son on the advice of our pediatrician, and he ended up with a perfectly shaped little head.
But then I started to see our second baby developing a flat spot. He sleeps propped up in the Fisher Price Sleep and Play bassinet, to help with his reflux. I noticed that the back of his head was becoming quite flat, and his skull was starting to bulge out at his temples! From the side, he looked a bit cone headed. I couldn’t believe it. And because it was gradual, it took some time for me to notice.
The changing shape of his skull was actually altering how his face looked. And not in a good way.
Not wanting my child to end up looking like Charlie Brown, I searched for remedies. He was only three months old, so his skull was still very pliable.
- Repositioning him seemed like a good option. But it didn’t work, due to where he sleeps and an already strong preference for his head position.
- Many experts recommend tummy time for all awake play time. But for us, tummy time was only a few minutes a day, since he still sleeps about 16 hours every day.
- They also recommend not letting your baby sleep very much in the car seat, bouncy seat or swing, though he didn’t do that anyway. We use a sling more than the stroller and rarely spend time in the car.
I found a product that is helping. The Boppy Noggin Nest has a donut hole in the back, so it holds the baby’s head in position and relieves the pressure.
Though this pillow is not a medical device intended for treating flat head syndrome, it’s working. After a few weeks of use, my son’s head is rounding out nicely. It’s still a bit flat in back, but the sides are no longer bulging out, and he looks more like he had before I noticed the problem. BIG sigh of relief here.
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